Not A Good Friday  — April 14, 2017

Not A Good Friday 

Many people who know me can tell you, I am a very empathetic person. I put myself in people’s shoes, and can literally feel sorrow they may feel. Well, any emotion, but sorrow is the one today. 

You see, it was not a Good Friday. Mary wouldn’t say it was a good Friday. I don’t think Jesus’ disciples would’ve said it was a good Friday. 

Jesus was mocked, beaten, tortured, and ultimately killed. How is that good? 

You see. The story doesn’t end there. The story goes on to Easter Sunday, and the days following. Jesus was buried, but didn’t stay buried. His followers claimed, and wrote about experiences they had seeing the risen Jesus, viewing the scars received from the beating He took. They recall meals, walks, and other instances where they interacted with Him after His crucifixion. 

Historically speaking, historians don’t argue if Jesus existed. Even historians that are not Christians say he existed. I like how CS Lewis put it: 

“A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said wouldn’t be a great moral teacher. He’d be either a lunatic on a level with a man who says he’s a poached egg or else he’d be the devil of hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is the Son of God, or else a madman or something worse.”

C S Lewis 

He is a lunatic, a liar, or who he claimed to be. Based on what I know I’ve made my decision. Have you? This holy week we have so much to contemplate, and consider.  I cannot live knowing what I know, and not be changed.

You see. This day signifies a horrible day in history. I scratch my head at calling it “Good Friday”. 

While this day in history was horrible, it also brought the best thing ever. A chance for salvation if we choose to believe. 

Do you believe? Do you live a life that makes people wonder what’s different about you? 

Consider the price paid for your salvation, and thank God for sending His Son to pay our debt. 

🙂 God bless. 

No Fear in Love  — April 6, 2017

No Fear in Love 


I share my dating “fails” for one simple reason: so others can learn from my mistakes. It’s my prayer that this blog  is read, and encourages others, and help others learn from my mistakes. 

When in previous relationships, even a few months in, this verse was knawing away at me. The reminder that love from God wouldn’t have anxiety or fear involved. Yet I was so insecure, jealous, and anxious. 

I believe it was God reminding me, a love from Him won’t have me begging for attention. A love from God wouldn’t leave me jealous and insecure. Anxiety would take a grip on me along with this verse. Leaving me no choice, really, but to end the relationship and run back to God. 

A perfect love wouldn’t leave you needing to run back to God. A perfect love leads you to God, because God is love! 

Only since I’ve met my boyfriend has this changed for me. Even as friends Ash would pray for me, and encourage me to be what he calls “a woman of character”, or a Godly woman. Ash asks about my devotions, and we talk about our daily devotions. 

By no means am I saying he’s perfect. No one is. But Ash is learning to love from the One who is perfect. Ash leads me, and guides me closer to God. I finally understood why this verse says “perfect love casts out fear”. 

Because even if Ash is not the man God has for me to marry, Ash displays perfect love because of who he loves more than me, God. I don’t get anxious, jealous, or even insecure with Ash. 

Do you display perfect love to those around you? How can you show His perfect love today? 

God bless. ❤

Dateable Dilemma — April 3, 2017

Dateable Dilemma

Today I’m working a split shift, and I turned on my phone to a message from a friend about being date-able but not marry-able. I’ll admit I believe I was too, stuck in that stage. I’m not going to address my friend in this post, but share my thoughts on this stage, and how I, and authors I’ve read on this subject have approached this dilemma in a biblical way. 

By no means am I saying this is a one size fits all “fix”, but rather something that could possibly help. 

I believe it begins with introspection. When I was single for two and a half years I spent a lot of time looking at myself. Improving myself and becoming a Proverbs 31 wannabe. Focusing on being a woman deserving of the man I’ve been praying for. 

The authors mentioned this as well. They focused more on being a woman of God, rather then looking for the next date or their next boyfriend. When they focused on improving themselves they changed, and grew closer in their relationship with God. 

I think of a time when I was single that a guy claimed to be a Christian, and we started texting. Not long into texting he asked me “do you flirt?” I just replied saying that if he wanted a woman of God, like he claimed, that he needed to be a man of God. 

That text saying, “Do you flirt?” Was the turning point for me. That’s when I began thinking about past relationships; what I enjoyed, what I disliked, and lastly how I could be a better partner and helpmate. 

How can you improve if you’re in a relationship? In what areas, if you’re single,  can you prepare yourself to be a better helpmate? 

There’s always room for improvement. 🙂

God bless. 🙂 

Walk the Line — March 29, 2017

Walk the Line

The gear of this blog may slightly change, since I’m in a different stage of life. When I began this blog it was all about encouraging people through what I’ve been learning in my walk with God, and encouraging others. Sometimes it’s easy to think you’re alone in this life, and that no one understands. It’s true that you’re the only person living your life, but you’re not alone. Others have gone through what you’re going through if you listen, and are willing to share your struggles. 

Now to the main point of this specific blog post. Lol. Ash and I were talking today, and I remembered a lesson taught when I was in middle school. The youth pastor was using an analogy about a line. Once you crossed the line you were in sin. 

I mentioned when talking about physical boundaries, that I didn’t want to be of the mindset of getting as close to the line as we can without crossing it. We are called to resist the devil, and flee from sin. 

Why is it that we’ve got the mentality of getting as close to the line as we can without crossing it instead of running away from the line?

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

James 4:7 NIV 

We need to be running from the line instead of creeping closer to it until we’re no longer convinced the sin is bad. Often times we give into temptation when we get closer to the sin. I’m not just talking about sex, I’m talking about all sin. It’s important to run from all sin and temptation into the arms of Jesus. 

Are you trying to walk the line instead of run from it? What can you do to protect your heart and run away from sin and temptation? 

Feel free to start a respectful discussion in the comments on the questions posed, because I’m genuinely interested in your thoughts on this!

God bless. 🙂

Work it!  — March 23, 2017

Work it! 

A month ago today one of my best friends asked me to be his girlfriend. We’ve had many discussions about what we want the relationship to look like, and the roles we each will play in the relationship. Besides men leading the relationship/family the Bible does not specify “gender roles” like modern society tries to place. 

Ash and I have carefully discussed what we expect, and need from our partner. I’ve read that it’s not natural to meet your partners needs, yet it seems to be natural for us so far. We’ve also set up communication so we can talk about difficult things, and express where the relationship could need some work. 

As we enter in this relationship it’s crazy how we expect work from our partners on earth, and neglect our partner in heaven… God. We would think a person is naive to think a relationship doesn’t take work, so why would we think our relationship with God is any different? 

It’s always been important for me to find a guy that encourages me in my walk with God, and Ash does that. This is important to me because I understand that just as I would put work into my relationship with Ash, I need to put just as much if not more work into my relationship with God. 

We need to remember to “work it!”

If you’re in a relationship/engaged/married how do you encourage your partner? Do they encourage you? 

If single keep this in mind as you consider who you start a relationship with. You and your partner should be leading each other closer to God. 

The closer you are to God, the closer you’ll be with your partner.

God bless. 🙂

New Work — March 14, 2017

New Work

I’m all about rejoicing with those who rejoice, and weeping with those who weep. Today is a day of rejoicing! In the small town I live there are only a few job opportunities for those outside of restaurants and factories. So, I feel very blessed to have accepted a position at a daycare. 

Ever since I was young I’ve worked with and have been around babies. Even when I was on the tour yesterday during the interview kids came up to me smiling. It’s a natural response kids have to me. 

Working with kids is natural for me, and I definitely enjoy it. Long term my goal is to get financially stable, and become a foster mother. One step at a time though! Please, be praying with me that the Lord will make known the path I should take as I have major decisions to make coming up! 

God bless! 

Purim  — March 12, 2017

Purim 

Purim is a Jewish festival that I’m sad to say some Israelites and Jews know less about this festival than me, a Christian. I was watching a snapchat discovery on Purim. One Israeli woman compared it to Halloween. While there are similarities it’s about so much more than dressing up in costumes and eating candy.

In synagogues around the world the story of Esther will be (or have been) read. Purim is all about celebrating the day Queen Esther spoke up to the King, saving the Jews that were exiled from being killed by Haman. When Jews hear his name it is custom to scream and yell; making lots of noise to show their dislike of the man.

Purim celebrates the Jews being able to defend themselves, as well as Hamans death. God protected the Jews.

You can find the beginning and description of the festival in Esther 9:20-32!

Burdens too Heavy — March 9, 2017

Burdens too Heavy

As some of you readers know I studied psychology in college. I wanted to focus on younger ages and I took a class on the adolescent age range. In that class many topics were discussed because across the board adolescence has many challenges. Everyone faces them during this point in their life, but let’s be honest the trouble doesn’t end when adolescence is over.

Each stage of life presents different and unique struggles and burdens. God realizes that, and He’s more than willing to listen to our struggles. 

I was talking about this with a friend last night, and he mentioned how he doesn’t feel like he can take his struggles to God. Smiling I opened my Bible saying “I can open up to a random chapter in Psalms, and you can see a Psalmist sharing their burdens with God. Heck, there’s even a book called ‘Lamentations’.”

Smiling as we skyped I opened my Bible randomly choosing Psalm 5. This is the very first verse:  

“Listen to my words, LORD, consider my lament.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭5:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

David is pouring out his heart to God, sharing his struggles. 

A few other verses that come to mind: 

““Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.””

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭11:28-30‬ ‭NIV‬

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5:7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

There are many more verses similar to these, I’m sure. Those verses are just the ones I thought of off the top of my head. God cares about our burdens, and our pain. He wants to offer healing that nothing else can. 

Your burdens and pain may leave a scar, but in order to have the scar you need healing. Some of you may have wounds many years old that are waiting to be healed by the Great Physician. Only God can heal your hurts if you take them to Him in prayer. 

Do you tell God about your good days, and your bad days? How do you think your life could change if you give the Lord your pain? 

If you can testify to this please leave a comment so we can praise God with you for healing. 🙂 

God bless.  

Joy, Pain, and the Blame Game — March 6, 2017

Joy, Pain, and the Blame Game

The book of James. It’s a book full of truth, and tough love. James is believed to have been James the half brother of Jesus. Talk about living in your siblings shadow! 

At the beginning of Jesus ministry on earth we see that his brothers (James included) thought he was making it up and didn’t believe he was the Son of God. As James begins his introduction in this letter he calls himself a servant of Jesus Christ. James was given the nickname camel knees because he spent so much time in prayer.

Something changed in James, and he eventually was a martyr of the Christian faith. All this to lead into verses 2-18 of James chapter one. 

James 1:2-18

I shared a link so you all can read it for yourselves. When I think of this passage I think of Job. Job went through immense sufferings. The story of Job is unique because it’s one of the few times we see a dialogue between God and Satan. 

God actually nominated Job when Satan was trying to pick a fight. Why? God knew Job could handle whatever Satan threw at him, and that Job will be stronger in his faith because of the trials. God allowed the trials to come into Jobs life. 

So many times we hear the voices of people like Jobs wife telling us to curse God and die because of trials. Failing to ask for wisdom and understanding as to why the Good Father allowed the trials and hard times. 

Our sin, and our pain is not from God, but He in His infinite wisdom uses it to teach us and help us grow. Verse 14 makes it clear. It’s our own desires that are to blame. 

Do you pray for wisdom during tough times? Do you pray for God to show you how it will be used for good in your life? 

God bless. 🙂 

Give me a Beat Boys — March 1, 2017

Give me a Beat Boys

My brother is in a unique ministry. He’s in a band called Scarlet White. They’re currently on tour, and are blessing and encouraging people through their music. My brother is very open about sharing his testimony at shows.

He was interviewed by a street preacher on YouTube, and I couldn’t help but laugh hearing some of the things this southern Baptist man believed. I could go on a rant, badmouthing and putting that preacher down, but that will do no good. However, if I’m so blessed that he reads this, I believe he should be corrected on a few points. 

1: CHRISTIAN rock is not a sin. I never read in the Bible that there’s only a certain type of music that pleases the Lord. However, the heart of the person worshipping is important. We cannot judge the heart of a person, because we are not God. 

2: KJV, while a good version of the Bible as far as translation goes, is not the “only” Bible. Some Bible’s are more accurately translated than others, but they’re still the inspired Word of God. 

Sir, and others who may believe what this man believes, just because you worship with hymns and southern gospel doesn’t mean everyone does. Just because you understand and feel comfortable reading KJV doesn’t mean everyone is. 

Respectfully, if the words are edifying to the body of Christ and are worshipful, who are you to say it’s wrong or sinful for others to worship to it? Christians have better things to do; love others. (May I remind you of the greatest commandments? See Mark 12:28-31)

I pray you learn this soon. We are not going to be reaching others with a condemning attitude over type of Christian music, and version of the Bible. 

God bless.